Starting meetings with the right question changes everything. A well-chosen opener lifts energy, creates genuine connection, and makes the rest of your session far more productive. These seven questions are simple, low-risk, and proven to spark laughter, curiosity, and meaningful sharing—whether your group is in the same room or spread across time zones.
These aren’t just small talk—they’re a strategic tool. The best ones help team members transition from individual work mode into collaborative thinking. When you open with a thoughtful question, you’re signaling that every voice matters and creating psychological safety before diving into the agenda.
Think of this as an unofficial start—a deliberate moment before the agenda begins where people connect, warm up, and settle in. Keep it brief, invite participation (but never force it), and model the behavior by answering first.
Too much connection is never enough.
Why it works: It’s personal, lightly revealing, and non-threatening. People get to share something visible and familiar without oversharing.
How to run it: Ask people to remember their background and describe it—no need to pull out phones. Prompt them to say why they chose that image. Expect anything from family photos to beach shots or default wallpapers. This reveals personality without putting anyone on the spot.
Pro tip: Works especially well for virtual meetings where people are already on their devices.
Why it works: Fridge doors are tiny stages for life—calendars, kids’ drawings, grocery lists, or quirky magnets. This surfaces personality and everyday reality in a fun way.
How to run it: Invite people to describe one or two items. If your team works onsite, they can use office kitchen equivalents. Keep the tone light and celebratory of everyday details. This often leads to unexpected stories and laughter.
Why it works: Imagination reveals values and aspirations. This classic generates answers ranging from flying to extreme empathy to the ability to debug code instantly—each answer tells a story.
How to run it: Encourage people to answer personally or frame the power to help them at work. Follow up with: “How would you use that on our team?” This turns a simple question into a team-building moment.
Why it works: This aspirational prompt gets people talking about dreams and preferences. People enjoy picturing a future place of rest—whether that’s a Tuscan hilltop, a beach, or staying in their current neighborhood.
How to run it: Keep responses brief and invite one-sentence follow-ups like “Why that place?” This can reveal cultural preferences and personal priorities without being intrusive—perfect for diverse groups.
Why it works: This surfaces life experience—stability, mobility, and interesting backstories. Some people have lived in just a few places; others may have moved dozens of times.
How to run it: Clarify the definition of “home” (a place where they had a mail address or lived for a while). Let answers spark curiosity: a quick “Wow—what was the most memorable one?” keeps the energy flowing. This often uncovers surprising connections.
Why it works: Names carry family history, cultural identity, and personal meaning. This invites vulnerability and creates memorable connections.
How to run it: Offer the option to pass or to invent a fun alternative story. If someone shares a long story, invite them to summarize to keep within time. This is particularly powerful for building inclusion in diverse teams.
Why it works: This warm prompt reveals comfort zones, habits, and small pleasures—perfect for building rapport.
How to run it: Ask people to name the spot and say one sentence about why they love it. The responses can be practical (a bright chair by a window) or whimsical (the floor next to the cat). This humanizes remote colleagues especially well.
Why it works: It’s simple to answer and opens a window into someone’s environment. People often describe a wall, a plant, or a view out the window—each answer gives a tiny, meaningful glimpse into their day. This is custom-made for remote work.
How to run it: Ask people to describe what’s above their screen or through their nearest window. Keep it quick: one sentence per person keeps momentum.
These questions are designed to be low friction and high impact. Try one at the top of your next session and notice the tone shift: more attention, warmer interaction, and often a little laughter. Over time, this becomes part of the culture—strengthening trust and smoothing the path to productive work.
Keep a handful of favorites and rotate them regularly. Small, consistent moments of connection add up to big improvements in how a team shows up. The right opener turns ordinary meetings into moments of genuine human connection.
Ready to transform your meetings? Start with just one question next time. You’ll be surprised how such a simple practice can shift the energy and engagement of your entire team.